Sometimes unbelievers express that Christians are only concerned about gaining converts rather than caring for them holistically. In other words, we might befriend them or do nice things for them, but only because we want them to get saved. Whether we are guilty of this or merely give that appearance, we could all improve on loving and caring for others as well as appropriate ways of expressing genuine interest in non-Christians. Here are three tips for doing so:
- Learn to listen.
It should be our hope that we will be able to introduce Christ to our non-Christian friends. Nothing should weigh heavier on our minds than their eternal destiny. But that should never be our only reason for listening. Even if a person is never open to discussing spiritual things, it shows we care when we offer a listening ear.
- Treat each person as a unique individual.
As much as we are able, we should meet people where they are and express an interest in what interests them. When it comes to sharing the gospel, it can be good to have a basic method. Having a method makes us more confident and consistent in evangelism, but we need to be careful not to become too robotic with our words. Different situations might require different illustrations or introductions, etc.
- Learn the art of asking questions.
Many people enjoy the chance to talk about themselves, but they don’t want to feel interrogated by a barrage of questions. Ask an appropriate amount, and give people a chance to respond. Try to make some of your questions open ended. For example, if you ask a person how many kids he has, you might follow up by asking him what his family enjoys doing together.